This Is The Best Toy For A 3 Year Old With A Language Delay!

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There are many wonderful toys that will help your child’s language development, but the best toy for a 3 year old with a language delay (or any child) is one that is:

♥  Open ended to allow for a variety of language learning opportunities
♥  Does not require batteries for optimal functioning
♥  Can be used by the child for the next 3-5 years
♥  Great for pretend play and imagination
♥  Perfect for both a boy or a girl

What Is The Best Toy For A 3 Year Old With A Language Delay?

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It’s a Kids Kitchen Set!

If you have read some of my articles here at Seeme & Liz, you are probably quite familiar with my love of play kitchens!  And with good reason.

If you haven’t, be sure to take a look at these 2 articles:

Vocabulary Development & Skill Building With A Toy Kitchen

10 Reasons Every Child Needs A Play Kitchen

A 3 year old with a language delay is typically using single words to label objects, or perhaps even short 2-3 word phrases.

The goal is to get the child speaking in complete sentences as well as asking and answering questions.

Children also start to understand and use pronouns such as he and she around the age of 3.

17 tips to help toddler with speech delay

Here is a brief list of language skills the average 3 year old should have*:

♥  Recognizes 3+ colors

♥  Uses regular plurals (-s at end of word)

♥  Retell a short story using about 4-5 sentences

♥  Uses pronouns such as “I, we, me, you, they”, “he/she” starts emerging as well

♥  Understands and uses prepositions such as “in, out, on, off, under”

♥  Recognizes basic shapes such as circle, square, triangle

♥  Sentences are starting to sound more adult like and usually are 4+ words long. However, some grammatical errors are still to be expected.

*Note: If your child is not where you feel he should be based on the above milestones, it is better to have an evaluation done by a Speech-Language Pathologist than to wait and hope he catches up!

What’s So Special About A Pretend Play Kitchen?

A kitchen set will allow you to play with your child while working on all of the skills I mentioned above in a natural play based environment.

Children with speech and language delays benefit from routines.

A kids kitchen is great for building some language strengthening routines.

For example, if your child is already speaking in short phrases and the goal is to get them to answer questions, start the kitchen play with a question.

You could ask your child, “what can I have to eat today?”   If your child is really struggling to answer the question choose 3-5 pieces of pretend play food and lay them out.

Have your child choose food from the smaller group when you ask the question.

If they hand you an apple without using words, they have still answered the question.

However make sure that you follow up by saying something like “Thank you, I like to eat apples”.

Remember to try to keep the interactions as natural as possible.

The next part of the routine could be setting the table (or a blanket on the floor).   Ask your child “where should the plates go?”

They may take the plates and put them down, so try having them out of reach and see if your child will use words to answer the question.

For example, they could say “on the table” or “on the blanket”.

The point is, try following a similar routine each time you play at the kitchen with your child in order to work on a specific language goal.

If the goal is to expand your child’s ability to pretend play, model some things you could do in the kitchen.

You could take a cup and pretend to pour some water into it.  Then say something like “I’m so thirsty, this water is great”.  Then pause and see if your child will imitate or come up with something on her own.

One thing I do recommend is to make sure you have accessories for the kitchen such as play food, dishes, pots/pans, cutlery etc.

With these you will be able to extend the play and opportunities for language development.

Make sure to give your child plenty of time to play freely at the pretend kitchen.

It does not always need to be “learning time” as children learn many new skills during unstructured play.

If you already have a play kitchen but would like some more toys that will promote speech and language development please read Best Learning Toys For 3 Year Old’s To Encourage Language Development

And remember, if your child is receiving speech-language therapy, follow the guidance of your child’s therapist!

If you read something here, or anywhere else online that you would like to try with your child talk to their therapist to see if it is appropriate.

I hope you agree with me that the best toy for a 3 year old with language delays (or without, it’s really a great toy for any child) is a kids kitchen set!

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  1. Margaret Welwood

    Three-year-old Eliana loves to prepare meals for and feed her baby. She’s so thoughtful of Baby, holding her at the right angle so she can see the pictures when Eliana “reads” to her, and covering Baby when she’s cold. I see such a depth of empathy in this child. We don’t always understand her words–though we are understanding more and more–but her loving heart is open to all.

    1. Tanya (Post author)

      It sounds like Eliana is really getting into the pretend play which is great! Keep modeling grammatically correct language (with correct pronunciation) to her! Is she currently being seen by a speech pathologist?

      1. Margaret Welwood

        Her pre-K program (five mornings a week) provides access to various forms of therapy, but for some reason they have not recommended speech therapy at this time. That surprised us. Perhaps it shouldn’t have–the experts are more concerned with her gross motor skills at this point and maybe feel two therapy sessions would mean too much time away from class.

        1. Tanya (Post author)

          Hi Margaret,

          I suggest you ask why there is no speech therapy because her language development plays a large role in her future success. There is also the option of private speech therapy. If you have insurance coverage there is usually a portion allotted to speech therapy. Her language development and ability to communicate is just as important as her gross motor skills (perhaps even more, in my opinion).

          1. Margaret Welwood

            That’s very helpful. I’ll talk to Eliana’s mom about it. Thank you.

          2. Tanya (Post author)

            You’re welcome Margaret!

          3. Margaret Welwood

            Good news. I talked with Eliana’s mom last night, and E is in speech. When I’d asked before it was near the beginning of the school year and I guess not everything was in place.

          4. Tanya (Post author)

            That’s great Margaret. I’m so happy to hear speech therapy is not being overlooked!

  2. Lynn

    First of all I want to state that your site is very informative on a very important subject.  I had a bit of a learning issue and had speech improvement classes in primary school.  Your article on the 17 ways parents can help toddlers with speech delays is very good and offers some free information viewers can get and download.

    But this article about how a kids toy kitchen can a help a child with a language delay is fascinating!  Who knew that one simple toy could provide this much value.

    I took a look at some of the other pretend play kitchen articles you have written and I really enjoyed them all.  The language development tips you provide at the end of the 5 Best Kids Play Kitchens article make so much sense, but not something most parents would even think of!

    Thanks again for all of the great information you are providing to us parents!

    1. Tanya (Post author)

      Thanks so much Lynn!  I really appreciate it.

      I want parents to see that they don’t need any fancy high tech toys to provide the best for their children (from a learning perspective).

  3. JDT1

    Hi Tanya,

    This is such a great topic.  Our youngest daughter has incorporated these type of toys to help our 4 grandchildren to be counting to 20, speaking in complete sentences and in general be well ahead of children that are the same age.  I have always praised her for that.  She is natural mother, something I wished the younger generation had more of. 

    I have great admiration for your field as I just stated, unfortunately, a lot of parents are not preparing their children properly.  In my view any way.

    You have covered all the necessary needs for a great upbringing of our children. I myself, oldest of 6 siblings, have no children myself (am the favorite uncle though LOL).  However, I feel truly blessed as my wife’s 3 girls have taken me in with open arms and all 3 do call me Dad, which I never expected. I always told them I can’t and wouldn’t aspire to replace, but that I would always be there for them.  They did this on their own accord. If I may also add, they have blessed me/us with 11 grandchildren, and the oldest has again blessed us with 3 great grandchildren, whom all of which call me papa.  🙂

    Back to your topic. As I also stated that our youngest has been the most impressing of the 3 girls with the rearing of her kids, to the point I wished the other two did as well.  Not to belittle of course, their children have graduated, and so far 3 of them our now enrolled in college.  So they did something right.  🙂

    Thanks for your experience and obviously your degree in this field.


    1. Tanya (Post author)

      A toy kitchen offers so many natural learning opportunities.  It sounds like your daughter is a natural parent who knows how to nourish her children’s development!

  4. Scott Hinkle

    Go figure….I never would have thought of a play kitchen to address such issues.  It makes perfect sense yet never would have been on my radar.  Interactive, challenging from various angles and yet so simple.

    Thank you so much for pointing out the benefits of a play kitchen with respect to language learning delays.  I am grateful that my own children do not have any issues with talking but they do have kitchen and love making meals or creating menus for their restaurant!

    Thanks again.

    1. Tanya (Post author)

      Thanks Scott.  Sometimes the simplest toys are the best for learning!  I bet you are not alone in that  you didn’t realize the many benefits of a play kitchen for a child’s development!

  5. Wendy

    I like the idea of a play kitchen for kids with a language delay. Kids love to play pretend but like you said with a play kitchen kids get to do so much more than play pretend. Kids love to be creative and feel like they are cooking than bring the meal to Mom or Dad. It is a great opportunity to practice speech.

    1. Tanya (Post author)

      Agreed Wendy! So many new words and skills can be learned with one toy! And that of course is a play kitchen. Another toy that has many uses for language development and learning is a playhouse!

  6. Jenny

    Love your site and enjoyed reading your content! I think a kids play kitchen is an excellent toy for children with language delays and think there are so many opportunities to encourage language through a kids play kitchen as I read.

    Think the pictures you have of the kitchens look amazing! They are so detailed and look like real mini kitchens. Wish my kids were younger now!

    Thanks for the information

    1. Tanya (Post author)

      Hi Jenny,

      Thanks for your comment. These kitchens really do look real. It’s nice to see kids mimicking their parents when they are playing in their own kitchen so many skills can be practiced in addition to speech and language skills.


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